The Way I Feel…

As a person of Society, there are many Responsibility’s that you must portray and choose to portray. You recieve more responsibilities as you grow older. The amount of responsibility in ones life, I feel is, based on both the age and advantages. For example, a child at the age of ten is not going to have the responsibilities as a nineteen year old. The same goes for a child at the age of ten, and a nineteen year old but one with a disability. A person with a disability is not going to have the same responsibility’s as one with out disabilities. Responsibility’s don’t just depend on disability’s, but on many other things that injeopardize a persons life. (Cancer, blindness, etc.)

In Society many people don’t just worry about what is wrong in their life but what is wrong in the entire country. I feel that the problems in the country are a big deal, however, I feel that your life should be put first. If you are just worrying about the country’s issues and never about your own, you could get drawn so deep into a hole that you don’t realize how much your issue’s and problems have accumulated over the years. I feel in a way that the gov’t should focus on the country’s issues the most being that they were put in politics to do what is best for the society.

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There are people all throughtout the world that doubt themselves at some point in their life. I have caught myself on many occasions, doubting myself that I couldn’t do something, or I wasn’t good enough. There could be many reasons in ones life, of why they doubt themselves.

Personally I think that one of the main reasons is because a person feels that they “CAN’T”. I was always told to never say this, because there is no such thing as can’t! I have been told this by my parents, teachers, even my brother! However, I do have to agree with them. When I first hear them say this, I get mad, but when I stop and think about it it really does make sense. I would doubt myself I couldn’t loose weight, because I was too far gone, but when i set my mind to it and deleted the word Can’t from my vocabulary, I started to loose weight. It wasn’t as much as I would have liked, but it was still progress.

I had found a video on You Tube, and the woman talks about how 1% of doubt erases, 99% of your determination. I never had thought of it that way, but it really makes sense. When you doubt yourself, it is like making yourself believe you can’t, or your not good enough etc.

I feel that the video was very fitting for this topic, and that was one of the reasons I had chosen it. I have learned to not doubt myself as much, because for one I realized I can do anything I want and put my mind too, and two my motivation sunk and I felt really upset. I would be upset because I just presumed I couldn't do it before I actually tried!

Connecting to Hamlet’s character is hard. Not hard to the point where I don’t understand but hard because he acts differently all the time. In parts of the play I can understand what Hamlet is meaning, and why he is so upset, but at other times,  I think that he over-reacts and I just can’t connect with him.

When Hamlet found out about the death of his dad, and the marriage of his mother, to his uncle, he was very upset. At this time I could connect with him. I would be mortified if my mother was to re-marry that soon after my fathers death. I may have even reacted in the same way Hamlet did.  http://shakespeare.mit.edu/hamlet/hamlet.1.2.html

However when he was going very crazy toward Ophelia, I couldn’t connect. For one thing I don’t love females….but mainly I kind of don’t understand why he was so crazy. I mean I do realize that she was the one thing that stuck by him, and then she all of a sudden just stopped, but I mean I don’t think I would have reacted to the extent that he had. They way I see, if  she wasn’t talking to me, I wouldn’t go crazy because that would likely cause her to not like me even more.

Procrastination plays a large part in many peoples lives. It may play a part in everyones life, but the extent is different for everyone. Myself I tend to procrastinate lots. It is usually when I shouldn’t be. For example, I will sometimes leave studying for the last minute, and lots of times I leave too long and then just don’t do it! At the age and state I am in life, I should be Procrastinating about the things I am doing instead of studying!

Procrastination really could affect your fate. Maybe not in a large affect, but it could somehow. Affecting your fate could mean, but your life holds after highschool. If you were to always procrastinate about studying and always get failing or close to failing marks, that could affect your future big time! It could affect what school you go to, what course you go into, or even if you are eligible to graduate! Procrastination can be scary! I guess from the statement i made earlier, Procrastination can affect your fate alot! http://www.suite101.com/article.cfm/life_nz/112072

“Relationships are an important part of life for most of us. We look for and value relationships but they can build us a little closer to heaven…or to despair” (Applebee, Langer, Hynes-Berry, and Miller, 1994, p.601) I agree with this quote. A relationship can give us hope but also sometimes heartache.

Relationships come in many different shapes and sizes. There are family relationships, love relationships..etc. In relationships involving families, friends, neighbours etc..they can support and strengthen you. How you ask? Well let me tell you….the way I think they can. Let me start off with families. Your family can both support and strengthen you in many ways. Throughout your life when troubles come at you full blast, your family and friends are there to help you get throught it, and support you when you make a decision that could affect your future. They strenghten you so you are stronger with each passing day of trouble that you may face in life. http://www.systemiccoaching.com/sw_articles_eng/partnership.htm

In general I don’t feel that Relationships are always predictable. When in relationships you never know what could happen. In a relationship between and child and parent, your relationship could be going so good, but then one day the top explodes and your being beaten. You never know when your mom or dad will strike you, or if they will strike you again. This same scenario could relate to a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.

When in a relationship of dating, engagement, marriage etc., you can’t predict how long you will last or if you will last. You could be thinking to yourself..this is the one. I love him or her very much, this is definately the one, but your partner could think otherwise. Before you know it you could be living the single life, or on the other hand you could be engaged or married.

To sum it all up, I don’t think Relationships are predictable. The way I see it, take each day as it comes, if its meant to be its meant to be, otherwise get over it and move on. You can’t hold on to something forever when there is nothing there to hold on to.

My Research Topic was the argument that dealt with whether Genetics was more influential or if Environment was more influential. I was on the con side which had to prove that genetics was more influential. Both sides had good arguments, and I feel that both enviornment and genetics are equally influential. http://genealogy.about.com/cs/geneticgenealogy/a/nature_nurture.htm

I feel that genetics are important for a few reasons. When a young child is growing up the environment isn’t affecting them as much. The parents influence the children the most at that young age. The parents teach the kids the ‘basics’ as they are growing up. As the child gets older the environment starts to affect them more and more. An environment can influence how a person reacts to certain situations, how they base their future decisions and sometimes even their beliefs. If you live in an environment with lots of violence you can influenced by either doing the violence or you are influenced by how you will react. You may be the person that does something about it, or you could be the one you sits back and hopes it doesn’t happen to you.

There are so many in ones environment/genetics that can influence them. Both play a large role that influence the person to become what they are as an adult, and continue to influence them as an adult.

There are many jobs in today’s society that certain people don’t like doing. Whether it be sitting behind a desk all day, working in care homes, etc. However, these jobs do have people that do enjoy working in them.

In the short story “Shooting and Elephant”, Orwell had to shoot an elephant, however he didn’t agree with he. He felt it was wrong to shoot an elephant just for its actions. Yes at one time it was harmful, but when he found the elephant in its own environment it seemed harmless. He ended up shooting it though, because he did not want to let down the people who looked up to him.

In life there are always going to be jobs you don’t want to do, however depending on the job, you should be doing it for the good of others. For example if your sitting behind a desk answering phones and you don’t like well then maybe you should seek some other kind of career. If you are in a career that involves helping people, (teacher, home-care aide, etc) think of what the people think of you. I want to become a Home- Care aide, and I want to be there to help the people in the homes whether it be Seniors, Disabbled etc. I am going into the career because I would like to do it, but if twenty years down the line, I may try to find something else, but the people I work for and with would impact me greatly.

Going to work into a Senior home or a home with live in residents, I won’t be just doing it for the pay cheque. I will be going to work because I want to make a difference in some ones life. I had a taste of this when my Grandma was in the home before she passed, and as much as I hated seeing my Grandma in that home, I knew she enjoyed the help she recieved. Whenever I would visit her, her smile would brighten the room. I was making a difference. I guess you could say my Grandma inspired me to become what I am going to become later on in life.

In the story “Shooting and Elephant”, Orwell may have hated the job he had to do, but he did give the people around him the security and protection they needed. You may feel your not making a difference with your career, but you are, somehow!

The human race of today hold many qualities and ideals that they each have for themselves. Each persons qualities are different from the next person. Common qualities that are found in people are things such as; organized, polite, generous, truthful, helful, etc. An ideal is a conception of something in its absolute perfection. Many people want certain things in their life, to be perfect. It can be such a little thing as graduation, or school grade, even your marriage. But all of your ideals can be changed by just a simple qualitity one carries. I think in many cases that some ideals we all strive to have. I am sure in some point in our lives we wanted to perfect our grades, or have our class graduation perfect, or even have our body perfect! For me I have wanted a perfect body for the longest time!

As William Shakespeare once said: “Some are born great, some achieve greatness and some have grateness thrust upon them”. I think this quote is the basis of ones life. Not everyone is the same, and we all can’t do the same things to the same quality. We each have our own paths to live, so we can’t live a path that is impossible for us to fulfill.

Our  actions can cause our ideals to diminish. For example, I want to have the perfect body. No flaws, no excess weight, etc. However, that ideal diminished awhile ago, because of my actions. For me to not have excess weight, I would have to cut out the excess food. I haven’t done that, cut back on it yes, but not gotten rid of it 100%. Also I would have to excercise regularly, but I don’t so this also plays a factor in loosing the ideal. This ideal is reachable, but in order for me to grasp onto it, I have to control my actions until I am close enough to grab hold of my ideal again.

There are many ideals I have, some still in my grasp, but others slowing falling away. I have to change my actions in order to grab hold again, before my ideal has left my life for good! This goes for anyone who is loosing their ideal due to their actions. Your ideal, depending what it is, can play a role in your qualities, whether they are good or bad. For example, in the song Whiskey Lullaby by Brad Paisley, the man and women want their life to perfect with each other, yet they turn to alcohol and it all goes downhill from their. Yes this is a weird example, but how many people out their that turn to alcohol and their lives become the total opposite of what they wanted it to be. Is really how they want to live their life, if they could die because of too much alcohol, drugs, etc? This action alone can change a persons life so FAST!

Many young teens today, compare themselves to other people such as TV stars, friends, etc. Who you compare yourself to can play a huge part in your identity.

Personally I tend to compare myself to people or are skinnier, prettier or nicer in general. Lots of people continually tell that I am perfect the way I am, but yet, No one is perfect! Whenever I see celebritys on T.V. or in magazine, or any form of media, I don’t look at them for why they are being interviewed, I look at them and compare them to me. How much skinnier they are, or how much more prettier they are. Whatever flaw I can find within me I compare it to other people who don’t have that flaw. http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2006/12/12/why-you-should-not-compare-yourself-to-others/

When I compare myself to others, it doesn’t help when people in society (not everyone, but mainly the ones that I see everyday or often) look at me and point out every flaw. It bothers me so bad, that I just want to give up. Sometimes I wonder if my identity is based on just my flaws. Everyone seems to make an entire list of it, usually of all bad stuff that I hate, and rag on me. I hate hearing the words, ‘fat ass’, ‘ugly’, ‘your not worth it’, etc. I know some of them may be taken too far, but it still burns.

When people judge others, the victim likely will compare themselves to other people. In reality however, the person you compare yourself too, may be going through the same problems in life you are.

An identity is formed and shaped by more than one aspect in ones life. When you are growing up, your parents are your main role models. They are the ones that start to shape your identity. You look up to them and you learn certain qualities from them, such as, the difference between right and wrong, or how you are to act around people. As you grow older however, more people and things start to influence your identity. Friends for example. You want to be like your friends, so your identity is influenced by them. For example, when I was younger I wanted so much just to fit in with everyone, especially the popular girls. I tried so hard to be like them, but it wasn’t who I was. If I was to become like them I would have been labeled as Snobby, or Arrogant. I would have been a totally different person. As I grew older I had one very close friend who is still a close friend and she alone influenced my identity. Because of her, I have become more aware of my surroundings. I don’t try to be like other people. I respect myself for me.

Another influence on identity can be ones beliefs/religions. Some may think this is crazy but i feel it is true. For me, I have grown up in a religious family. I have grown accustomed to going to church every week. I feel that I am a very faithful person. If I had not grown up with God in my life, that part of my identity would be different. I may not have had a religion.

Little things such as your appearance, interests, hobbies, you name it, can all influence your identity. If you were dress in clothes that made you look ‘easy’, you could be labeled as “whore” or “slut”. People could label you just from your interests or hobbies as well. Even though it may not be the whole entire YOU! http://www.personal-development.com/chuck/labels.htm

The media plays a huge role in a persons identity. You see all these actors/actresses, singers, models, etc. You want to be like them. If you aren’t though, you question yourself. Y ou feel you are not good enough to a part of society. Due to society some young teens have developed eating disorders so they can be ’skinny’ like a certain actress. The labels that are developed in media are sickening. The make viewers feel less of themselves if you don’t look like that. I know I used to feel not as good because I didn’t look a certain way, or dress a certain way. For me, media has played an enormous role in shapping my identity.

 There are so many things that shapes ones identity, and the people who influence will never stop influencing it. My identity isn’t written in stone. It never will be. Just like yours will never be definite. Parts of ones identity will be the same, but others with either change, or be forgotten about.