March 10: Human Relationships…are they predictable?
April 18, 2008 by chantellesthoughts
“Relationships are an important part of life for most of us. We look for and value relationships but they can build us a little closer to heaven…or to despair” (Applebee, Langer, Hynes-Berry, and Miller, 1994, p.601) I agree with this quote. A relationship can give us hope but also sometimes heartache.
Relationships come in many different shapes and sizes. There are family relationships, love relationships..etc. In relationships involving families, friends, neighbours etc..they can support and strengthen you. How you ask? Well let me tell you….the way I think they can. Let me start off with families. Your family can both support and strengthen you in many ways. Throughout your life when troubles come at you full blast, your family and friends are there to help you get throught it, and support you when you make a decision that could affect your future. They strenghten you so you are stronger with each passing day of trouble that you may face in life. http://www.systemiccoaching.com/sw_articles_eng/partnership.htm
In general I don’t feel that Relationships are always predictable. When in relationships you never know what could happen. In a relationship between and child and parent, your relationship could be going so good, but then one day the top explodes and your being beaten. You never know when your mom or dad will strike you, or if they will strike you again. This same scenario could relate to a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.
When in a relationship of dating, engagement, marriage etc., you can’t predict how long you will last or if you will last. You could be thinking to yourself..this is the one. I love him or her very much, this is definately the one, but your partner could think otherwise. Before you know it you could be living the single life, or on the other hand you could be engaged or married.
To sum it all up, I don’t think Relationships are predictable. The way I see it, take each day as it comes, if its meant to be its meant to be, otherwise get over it and move on. You can’t hold on to something forever when there is nothing there to hold on to.
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I like that you mentioned more than just couple relationships. I think that when most people think about relationships they think about boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife. Family relationships are very important. I see them as relationships that usually last and can survive even the worst situations.
I agree that relationships aren’t always predictable. Like I said in my blog, people are all different and therefore it is impossible to tell how they will interact.
Your summary is really good. I agree that we have to take each day as it comes. Like you said, if it’s meant to be it will happen and if not there is no point in trying to hold onto something that isn’t there.
Krysta
Nice entry, Chantelle, and I like the layout of your blog! This topic is an interesting, because I always think of relationships as part of the positive experiences in life. Maybe this is because I have the supportive family you talk about, and encouraging peers. I hate to think of other people around the world that have no such happiness. I tend to forget that there are negative relationships between humans, as well as other living beings. For this reason, you are bang on when you say “relationships aren’t predictable”. They are far from it!
Every different person wants something different from a relationship, and there are different genders, ages, and ethnic groups invovled. This alone creates such a diversity among relationships. I also watched your video, and I didn’t realize there were different stages within a relationship. Of course there are the obvious differences within them that you mentioned, such as dating and marriage.
Great closing lines, it summarizes your point very well. I can’t believe you were done your entries so early!! Good writing though, I look forward to reading maybe some more??
Hey Chantelle, great Blog!!
This topic was hard to talk about because it was hard to think about all the relationships in life, but it seems like you covered most of them. You talked about some that I didn’t even think of. Like Krysta said to your response, when thinking about relationships, many people think about the love relationships, and not other relationships that just involve interacting with other people.
I also liked how you talked about how unpredictable relationships because you don’t know what’s going to happen. One minute you could be having a nice conversation with a friend and then the next minute you get into a great big fight and are never friends again.
So anyway, good job and keep blogging!
Chantelle,
I really enjoyed reading this blog of yours. I liked how you not only touched on couple relationships ( like I did in my blog), you also touched on family relationships.. which I never even though about. (as krysta had mentioned) I completely agree with you that relationships aren’t predictable.. as I personally have experienced. Your closing paragraph was also well written. You summed up everything in a simple, but blunt couple of sentences. As Nicole mentioned I also never realized the different steps in a relationship until I watched your video. It was a very good connection.
Chantel.
sadly I agree with the sister, your closing line did a great job of summing it all up. I also agree with you that most relationships are hard to predict and we will not know until something actually happens, while other relationships seem so obvious.